good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity. -Nat Turner

hacks : how to improve social interaction


I don’t say I am an expert. In fact, I am no good at all at communicating, or worse, interacting.

Based on a fun quiz of the same topic I took on Facebook out of 25 questions, my result is

“You are doing okay.”

It happened to be sometimes I say something completely different from what I think of. Still do the learning with real people though 🙂

“To communicate is to be able to tell the other what’s on your mind without fighting or arguing.”

Here are the best hacks I got from multiple resources.

  • Say “Excuse me” instead of “Hi” to start a conversation. 

It feels awkward approaching a stranger to say, “Hi.” If you change “hi” to “excuse me,” then it will feel easier to start and continue a conversation. Why?
Excuse me” literally gives you a non-existent excuse to start a conversation. The phrase makes you feel like you have a reason to talk even when you don’t. “Hi” does not. By using “excuse me” rather than “hi,” you’ll get out of your comfort zone faster and talk to more people. As a result, if you work as a salesperson, you’ll close more deals. (read more)

  • Find a common interest.

You will have more confidence talking about subjects that you are familiar with. Try and see if you and the person you are speaking to have something in common. Finding out that you both are passionate about golf makes a conversation exponentially easier. (read more)

  • Waiting 3 full seconds before responding to anyone to give yourself an opportunity to think before you speak.

Confident people have faith that whoever they are talking to will patiently wait for their response. They don’t feel the need to rush and respond out of fear that the person they are talking to will lose interest. (read more)

  • People want 3 things out of what they give their time and attention to.

They want to be entertained, informed, and feel good about themselves. (read more).

  • Yes, people will mostly remember not what you said but how you made them feel.

Also, most people like talking about themselves so ask lots of questions about them. (read more)

  • Learn more Body Language tricks like :

✔️   Lots of eye contact (listening = connection)
✔️   Repeat their name in conversation (names = good feelings)
✔️   Turn your head slowly if someone calls your name (turning your head quickly shows eagerness)
✔️   Walk slowly (you are important, no one is rushing you anywhere)
✔️   Don’t fidget (shows you are nervous)
✔️   Don’t touch your face (nervousness)
✔️   Don’t bite your lips (nervousness)
✔️   Hold your shoulders back (shows power)
✔️   Don’t brush lint off your clothes (shows insecurity)
✔️   Respond to text 1 1/2 the time it took for them to respond. (you are busy)
✔️   Associate with other confident people (makes you confident)
(read more)

  • Don’t forget to soften your gaze.

When you first meet people try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it. (read more)

  • We can help to create magical connections simply by elevating the language we use from the phatic to the peak level.

✔️   Phatic : These statements have no emotional content: “How are you?”
✔️   Factual : These share information, maybe personal information, but no strong opinions or emotions are involved: “I live in Jakarta.”
✔️   Evaluative : These statements show opinions, but they’re not core beliefs: “That movie was really funny.”
✔️   Gut-level : Gut-level communication is emotionally based. It’s personal, says something deeper about who you are and is focused on feelings: “I’m sad that you’re not here.”
✔️   Peak : The most emotionally vulnerable level. Peak statements share your innermost feelings. These statements are rare, even with people we are very close to: “I guess at heart I’m terrified I’m going to lose you.” (read more)

  • Say “yes” to dinner invitations -or to any invitations.

Take it as an opportunity to networking to keep up with the current issues. Don’t have to accept ALL invitations, keep the frequency at the stage where you are not considered as the one who’s busy all the time. Do take a note; when you reject invitations, people will stop inviting and before you know it, you are excluded from the group. If it’s okay with you, go ahead then.

  • Spot people’s sympathies when they laugh.

Whenever you are standing in a group and laughter breaks out, it is a golden chance for you to see who likes you the most. Typically, each one in the group will instinctively glance at that particular individual that they like/trust the most in the group. This hack is not only helpful to spot people whom you are sympathetic, but also a nice way of figuring out who is secretly in a relationship or having a deep affection for each other. (read more)

“To communicate is to be able to tell the other what’s on your mind without fighting or arguing.”


Will be added more if I found another  🙂

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living the seven year old me.

best watch : my favorite cartoons.


Being an adult’s suck.

I hate it when adults have to know everything. When we stop wondering, we ask how instead of why. When the reality hits us hard. When we are obliged to multitask. When we have to make less mistakes because we are experienced. When fun is measured by expensive stuff.

Clearly. I would do anything to keep myself in wondering, awing, and completely living.

One way to do it, I watch cartoon.

There are many enchanted, magical, wonderful inside. I would love to simply overjoy it.
Lucky me, Boyfriend loves to watch cartoon too. And we just watched Moana last night.

A girl who sails the ocean? YASSSS. I Love her! Just like me love the ocean and water.

Anyway, if you like cartoons too, you probably have watched these. These are the list of my favorite ones. It keep me amazed how simple story can teach a priceless lesson.

  • Tangled (ALL TIME FAVORITE)
    The magically long-haired Rapunzel has spent her entire life in a tower,
    but now that a runaway thief has stumbled upon her, she is about to
    discover the world for the first time, and who she really is. (click here)wallpaper-1014636.jpg
  • Zootopia
    In a city of anthropomorphic animals, a rookie bunny cop and a cynical con
    artist fox must work together to uncover a conspiracy. (click here)
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  • Inside Out
    After young Riley is uprooted from her Midwest life and moved to San
    Francisco, her emotions – Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sadness – conflict
    on how best to navigate a new city, house, and school. (click here)
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  • The Croods
    After their cave is destroyed, a caveman family must trek through an
    unfamiliar fantastical world with the help of an inventive boy. (click here)
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  • Frozen
    When the newly crowned Queen Elsa accidentally uses her power to turn things into ice to curse her home in infinite winter, her sister, Anna, teams up with a mountain man, his playful reindeer, and a snowman to change the weather condition. (click here)maxresdefault.jpg
  • Wreck It Ralph
    A video game villain wants to be a hero and sets out to fulfill his dream, but his quest brings havoc to the whole arcade where he lives. (click here)film-review-wreck-it-_nich.jpg
  • The adventure of Tintin
    Intrepid reporter Tintin and Captain Haddock set off on a treasure hunt for
    a sunken ship commanded by Haddock’s ancestor. (click here)18lp69n5sinv4jpg.jpg
  • Up
    Seventy-eight year old Carl Fredricksen travels to Paradise Falls in his
    home equipped with balloons, inadvertently taking a young stowaway. (click here)
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  • Moana
    In Ancient Polynesia, when a terrible curse incurred by the Demigod Maui
    reaches an impetuous Chieftain’s daughter’s island, she answers the Ocean’s
    call to seek out the Demigod to set things right. (click here)Moana-2016-1.jpg

japaneses are the cutest, ever.

best watch : my favorite j-dorama.


As I revealed in the previous post, my taste in movies is approximately 85% Romance and the rest are Comedy and Crime. I am open to any producing country, as long as they are recommended. I usually watch the earliest episode, if it’s interest me enough I’ll be watching it till the end.

Thanks to my friend, Jonathan who poisoned me with this J-Dorama, he knows my taste so well.

And thanks to Boyfriend, who keeps updating the latest drama (and downloaded) so we can watch together.❤️

Anyway, here are the list of my favorite.

  • Nodame Cantabile *MY ALL TIME FAVE*

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  • Atashinchi no Danshi (Homeless)

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  • Proposal Daisakusen

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  • Koinaka

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  • Nobunaga Concerto

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  • 5-ji Kara 9-ji Made

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  • Seigi No Mikata

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  • Rich Man Poor Woman

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  • Itsuka Kono Koi wo Omoidashite Kitto Naite Shimau (Love That Makes You Cry)

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  • Hanazakari No Kimitachi E (Hanakimi)

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  • Dame na Watashi ni Koishite Kudasai (Please Love Me)

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