simple decisions that change my life.

Have I already told you that I am a visual learner?

Colors make me alive. I love each of them. I painted my bedroom with brown and pink previously, after months I get bored and decided to repainted again.


When I pick colors, I don’t pick them randomly. It already based on weeks of researching, comparing, and considering. As for now, I picked Brilliant white.




To balance the light, I got rid of my non-LED and set the LED in my room. The LED one was producing less heat and cooling my (pretty hot!) room temperature and also consuming less power (only 7 w, compare to the previous one; 25 w).

There are 3 choices of light. Warm white (for a nice bedroom rest), Natural White (for any room -neutral), and Cool White (for a lighten office space). Intended to buy the Natural White, but there was no stock available. So I picked the Cool White, as my bedroom also worked as home office 🙂


Those 2 decisions I made change my life.

Even though I often find myself on the way home exhausted and sooo very sleepy after meeting up with friends, when I got home I can not sleep right away. I write. I read. I have time to explore myself even more. I became one of those night owls and sleep 4-5 hours a day.

To be more energetic, I hack my sleep. Knowing the sleep cycle repeats every 90 minutes, I have been waking up at those multiples. If I hit the bed at 00:00, estimate to start sleeping at 00:10, then I must set my alarm at 04:40 or 06:10. Works all the time. That is why I need longer rest at weekend.

But I wish I had 25 hours a day.



about losing.

Just read an article on Quora about rejection (read here),

“The best thing to say after someone rejects you is “thank you“.
Time is too valuable to waste.”

ended up google the mentioned letter.

New York
November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.



John Steinbeck (1902-1968), a letter to his son

nothing brings people together happily like wedding.

I love weddings.

Except the long make-up session and the clothes picking, almost all weddings give me a memorable impression.

Last Saturday, Mbak Iche and I went to Mas Ali’s wedding.

It was a poolside party. I met a few old friends, which I have never seen them since months. It was good keeping up with Mas Dwi, Mas Dana, and Mas Darwin, but we did not share much because it was too crowded to have a proper conversation.

For once, I got the bright side of Indonesian (costly) wedding.
It is good for the invitee because the weds convene all of their (and the family) acquaintances to meet with each other, this event can be a reunion for the family or friends who live far-far-away.

Despite that,
for me attending weddings are pretty exhausting. Small-talks drained me. Bribe me with Kambing Guling, I promise I’ll stay longer.

collect moments, not things.

things to do before traveling.

I love traveling. It makes my world bigger.

Here are the preparations I made before traveling as a reminder for me for the next trip.

  • Decide the destination

If I am going with friends, I have probably deal the destination. But if I am alone and not sure yet where to go, I pick a city I want to go and check out the tourism map of the city. I also consider the airplane ticket prices and the cultural events that held on the time of my visit, or adjust them.

☑️   Destination
☑️   Time of traveling and how long


  • Secure the schedule

Talk to superior, ask his permission, prepare Annual Leave letters, and buy the ticket airplane. I make sure all the documents are both on hand digitally AND printed. I case of emergency, I copy my passport and save the copy on my luggage.

☑️   Permit Letters
☑️   Ticket Airplane
☑️   Passport & the copy

  • Research the destination

So far, I have never traveling with agency, so I have to arrange the itinerary by myself. I check the tourism map, print it, so I know where to on the first day, second day, etc. Decide the places of staying, whether it on a hostel, hotel, or apartment and booked it.

☑️   Itinerary
☑️   Accommodation

  • Research the local rules and other stuff I should know.

The research includes :
☑️   Local foods
☑️   Famous eatery
☑️   Local rules & manners
☑️   Basic phrases


  • Prepare necessary medication & body treatment

On my last trip, I planned to get influenza vaccination because it was rainy season and I did not want to get spoiled. But unfortunately the vaccine should be ordered months before so I cut it and instead, I bought an expensive Vitamin C supplement. It worked anyway, but I still prefer vaccine though. I also do waxing because i love to wear sleeveless and I trim my nails before I go.

☑️   Medication
☑️   Body Treatment

  • Packing

I pack my clothes 1.5x of the traveling days. I bring umbrella in case of raining and drink bottle so I can refill it on tapping water. I have not used for that though. Pack based on the destination or the season. If I will be going to beaches, pack beach outfits, do not pack winter clothes.

☑️   Carry-On & Essentials (phone, ID, chargers, wallet, camera, headphone)
☑️   Clothing & Shoes (blouse, dress, trousers, shorts, undies, jacket, cardigan,  socks, shoes, small bag, pajamas, swimsuit)
☑️   Accessories (hat, sunglasses, belt, jewelry)
☑️   Toiletries & Cosmetics
☑️   Miscellaneous (bottle, card cover, umbrella, snacks)

Packing List (6)

  • Prepare the cash

Whether I make exchange in the country or the destined country, I should have some cash in hand.

☑️   Cash


Arrive at Destination :

  • Purchase public transportation card. Public transports are a lot cheaper than taxi and also I can walk the city. I also bring the card cover so I can hang it on my neck.
  • Purchase local phone sim card. I need this because I use Google Maps a lot in unfamiliar places.
  • Always check belonging before leaving every place. I remember I left my jacket, I was so sad about it 😦



what currently drives me nuts.

and how I get rid of it.

Ever since I found Quora, Facebook was no longer interest me as it used to.

The upcoming DKI Jakarta governor’s election is totally ripped us (Indonesian) apart.


I was distraught on the thoughts of how to save humanity…

Well, I do not have to save humanity. I just have to save myself, the one I am fully in control with. I will not let those toxic people contaminated me.

I spent hours unfollowing almost all of my friends, until 9-10 left, only the ones who share funny or inspiring videos. I shut myself from social media news. Now my only source news are television and Boyfriend, at times when he brings the topics up.

As a phlegmatic, I am absolutely satisfied with my current Facebook feeds.


you are not your age,
nor the size of clothes you wear

you are not a weight,
or the colour of your hair

you are not your name,
or the dimples in your cheeks

you are all the books you read,
and all the words you speak

you are your croaky morning voice,
and the smiles you try to hide

you’re the sweetness in your laughter,
and every tear you’ve cried

you’re the songs you sing so loudly,
when you know you’re all alone

you’re the places that you’ve been to,
and the one that you call home

you’re the things that you believe in,
and the people that you love

you’re the photos in your bedroom,
and the future you’re dream of

you’re made of so much beauty,
but it seems that you forgot

when you decided that you were defined,
by all the things you’re not.